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our visit went good but our son mentioned hehas been written up for an infraction while he was is SHU. He suffers from OCD and panic attacks and his celly was watching a TV show our son didn't like, they had an argument and he (our son) said to a guard he might hurt himself. To me this was his frustration and OCD, but they put him in the holing room with no clothes for 3 days and when he said he only said that to get out of the cell they wrote him up. what they do not understand is this was because of his OCD and Panic. My question is can I contact anyone who could tell me if they have a medical report that says he has OCD and panic? He of couse is not receiving any counseling and who knows about his meds. I'm feeling kinda lost and scared.  Thank you all

had our first visit of the year, we got to hug him!! It's been so long since we could do that. He has lost almost 50 lbs but looks good, we had a nice visit and hopefully will be able to see him again in a couple weeks. On a side note we also finally got our car back from repair! so over all a good weekend.

almost time for our first visit of the year. Our car is supposed to be fixed next week and on the 25th we can go see our son. He is in min or at least was. Can't wait to see him and give him a hug.

my son says thank you for his Christmas cards he was so happy...it made him feel so good, I just want to thank you for making him happy..god bless lots of hugs..

When dose this get easier...I have so much quilt and pain for me and my son ....no where to turn for help and no one understands the pain

got a letter from our son yesterday, must be the "old" commissary is back in operation so he could buy paper and envelopes. He is being moved back into General pop, hope it goes well for him. Don't know yet when we can have our next visit but if he stays where he is at we can give him a hug, it has been way to long since we have done that.

Had our visit on Saturday, it was good to see and talk to him but he is still in chains and behind glass, he had an incident with a cellmate and instead of "ratting" on him my son said he might hurt himself, so they put him in the naked room for two days. when he came out his celly was gone but had stolen all our son's writing stuff. The guard basically said tough s---. since he had lied about wanting to hurt himself just to get away from the cellmate. (to me that's a cry for help). also his "new" lawyer we were so hopeful about said his claims of bad representation by the PD had no merit. and if he felt he signed his plea agreement under duress that was hard to prove. I am so afraid they will redo his plea and give him more time. I so want to say just keep your mouth shut do your time(20) shorter with good time, and get out. very frustrating. and of course no one seems to care about his panic attacks and OCD.

Then on the way home(a 3 hr drive) we hit a deer. luckily we are OK but our car was towed to a small town with no hotel and we couldn't get a rental till sunday. nearest town was 30 miles away. but a couple of very kind strangers gave us a ride to a hotel and we were finally able to get home 24 hours late. so long exhausting weekend has left me depressed and sad, this is only our second Christmas without him and I just can't get into the "spirit".......

I finally got to talk to my son tonight. He had disobeyed some type of command and had to spend two weeks in the "box" no phone calls or visitation and isolation. Really hard, but we made it. He is much more positive than I thought he would be. Looks like it's going to be state and federal charges that we are looking at with a court date the first week in January but that will just be a request for more time as the federal defender gets information and starts his defense. Both defenders seem competent and will work for him, but the knowledge of what we are gambling is scary. Just relieved that I got to speak to my Jeff, even if it was just 15 minutes. One day at a time...

Im so sad  cant wait to see my son walk in the door.with his smiles. god please I pray for everybody to get thru this.lots of prayers. and hope to hear that you all will have a very blessed holiday..i have the blues cant shake it off....I love you my wonderful son....god bless. I wish I can get a phone call.since he is on restrictions.no calls..but his letters is what gets me through.that he is bored  and he met someone there that he talks too. miss you  mom....

sorry, just learning how to post. ha ha

why am I so angry all the time?

my son baby girl Alexis.6 years old.me and my other son he is 13 years old...love my family god bless you.....

This is my first post on this site. Where to start, my son was arrested July 27th for having child pornography on his computer. He is 25yrs old. It soon came to light that he also had oral sex with a 15yr old girl. Needless to say, I was floored and devastated. It feels like my heart has been torn into pieces. We still have no idea how long he will be sentenced to and he is still in the county jail. This was our first holiday apart. I love my son more than anything in the world and truly believe he was addicted to porn. I never saw any hint of child porn, but knew he has viewed adult porn. I tried to explain the downfalls of such activity, but as children do, he knew better than his mom. He is truly sorry for his actions but now he could face up to 60yrs in prison. I can get no answers from anyone in the legal system. I don't know what to do or how best to help him, other than prayer. He has never had any situations where there was a possibility that he touched a child. Except for the 15yr old girl, which I know is wrong. He is not a child molester, just a young man that still had the views of a teenager. He has matured so much in a system that could potentially make him hard. He smoked marijuana, which I again tried to curtail. For most of his life, he's lived with me, maybe two years out on his own. It's hard because I was so young when I had him, but that was my reason for fighting in this world, to give my children a better life than me. Now we face a life that I have no clue about nor does he. He has accepted our lord Jesus Christ back in his life, but still scared too death for him every day. I appreciate any and all words of inspiration and advice. I'm tired of crying...and really just worn down.

only 5 more days till our visit! It's been a month since we last saw him and I can't wait.

we finally get a visit! He only gets one a month but we are anxious to see him . They said he is still in security but our visit will not be behind glass, soo that means hugs!!  We are still confused but thankful.

It was so far 8 hours.i was so happy behind glass.it was so amazing.he looked so happy to see his family.it just breaks my heart.I cant wait to see him come home soon.nice visit....

Well the holiday season is upon us once again.  This is the ninth year my son has been incarcerated and it does not get any easier. He is sentenced to Life without Parole so I have had to learn to try to make our Christmas special differently than I ever did before.  Most of you have a date of release you can look forward to and most of you have families to help you through it but I have none of that. My parents have passed on and since my son's crime involved a family member (my cousin) I have no family to fall back on.  I am the only one he gets cards, letters and visits from which is really hard on him. I still decorate for Christmas every year and remember the good times with each ornament I hang on the tree. This is difficult for me but I just have to do it because not decorating would feel so much worse. So with that I am off to decorate and cry....

This will be my 20 year old son Ryans last Christmas at home for a few years since he will be incarcerated in March probably. My question is.....what to buy him as gifts for Christmas. Clothes, shoes, etc just dont make sense. Any suggestions???

 hello wonderful members,

my name is Helen I got a son 25 years old he is in for aggravated assault.6 years.he is in smith unit in lamesa texas

he is in ad seg right now,i don't know how we got here I can amagine what us parents are going through,i feel so much pain and I feel so sad especially for the holidays,i cant get motivated,my son missed his thanksgiving last year too.he is a sweet son that had mental issues.im  not able to have contact visits. thru window with phone. so screwed.

just for 2 hours,but its worth the drive.he is 8 hours away..i need to see him.my heart is broken.his first time in prison.  I wish I was invisible so I can go see him and hug my son so tight.and tell him everythings gonna be alright,i know angels are there to protect our loved ones..someday he will be home.i have faith that god will conquer all. god bless you ...stay strong.....lots of prayers to all the mothers that have to be without your sons and family.

     I miss you........love you forever.....son...