This is my first post on this site. Where to start, my son was arrested July 27th for having child pornography on his computer. He is 25yrs old. It soon came to light that he also had oral sex with a 15yr old girl. Needless to say, I was floored and devastated. It feels like my heart has been torn into pieces. We still have no idea how long he will be sentenced to and he is still in the county jail. This was our first holiday apart. I love my son more than anything in the world and truly believe he was addicted to porn. I never saw any hint of child porn, but knew he has viewed adult porn. I tried to explain the downfalls of such activity, but as children do, he knew better than his mom. He is truly sorry for his actions but now he could face up to 60yrs in prison. I can get no answers from anyone in the legal system. I don't know what to do or how best to help him, other than prayer. He has never had any situations where there was a possibility that he touched a child. Except for the 15yr old girl, which I know is wrong. He is not a child molester, just a young man that still had the views of a teenager. He has matured so much in a system that could potentially make him hard. He smoked marijuana, which I again tried to curtail. For most of his life, he's lived with me, maybe two years out on his own. It's hard because I was so young when I had him, but that was my reason for fighting in this world, to give my children a better life than me. Now we face a life that I have no clue about nor does he. He has accepted our lord Jesus Christ back in his life, but still scared too death for him every day. I appreciate any and all words of inspiration and advice. I'm tired of crying...and really just worn down.
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Thank you Lisa, much appreciated! I seem to be on a roller coaster...doing ok then not so much. Reading everyone's encouragement has helped. I know all of you know how that is...
Wow, Debi that is tough. Your son is truly in an unfair situation. My prayers for your family.
I cannot tell you how much everyone's encouraging words have helped. I am crying in just knowing I'm not alone. I am overwhelmed, but will get through this, scared but feel strength from the lord and everyone's stories. My son and I will get through this. It's true, he is doing better than I thought he would, really better than me and I'm not the one in prison. I really appreciate knowing there are prayers out there for us. Thank you!!
Hi Kathy! I am so sorry and understand completely. I see that you are also in Florida. My son was arrested last November for having a sexual conversation through the internet with undercover cop posing as a minor. This is the focus in Florida right now, unfortunately. Your son sounds like mine. All the psychological testing proved that he was not a child molester, but at a very low point in his life he used very poor judgement. He also at 29 was very immature and has always lived with me. He has been in prison for 10 weeks. I can tell you that he is coping much better than I expected. There will be a lot of rough days, but know that we are all here for you and your son. My son received a 10 yr minimum mandatory sentence and is currently in Fort Worth, Texas. I have had some bad days especially now with the holidays, but I have seen a lot of growth in him through our letters and I know that God has bigger plans for his life. When you are ready, there are a couple of groups that are fighting to change the laws regarding their status I can direct you to. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. Saying a prayer for you both.
I understand ware your coming from. Not the same crime but i feel the same way u do. Not only do I have to deal with the posability of losing my son to life in preson i just lost my mother and sister to taking there own lifes. I cant say what God has planed but you have to know even this will pass. Lots of (((( hugs ))))
Thank you!!
Hi Kathy,
You and your family are in my prayers.... Continue to trust in the Lord and lean not unto your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
God Bless!