Well, one year (and an extremely long process) later, sentencing happened. .... and if I thought a person couldn't break any more than my friend did when this all first started, I was wrong! Terrible to watch someone's heart be ripped out, and to see someone who used to be mostly happy change into a depressed and lost soul... no words. ....
we've been there for each other through everything. Until now, i thought deaths were the worst we've dealt with. This is just as bad, if not worse. I pray for her to find strength...keep pushing forward...and to realize she is not a failure because her adult son made a stupid decision. She is an amazing, strong, beautiful woman...and a phenomenal mother. I know she CAN survive this ....i just hope and pray she DOES! She is my best friend and the least i can do is everything possible to keep her going...somehow....
Stacy, from the other post I read, you sound just like my dear wonderful friend who sat with me just after my son was sentence to life. She never said a word, not one, she just sat there rocking me back and forth for hours as I cried. Your friend is very blessed to have you . I hope she will find her way here to MISS, All of these ladies are so wonder and give so much support it would be good for her to know she is not alone.
The last year has been exactly that...taking her to visits, making sure he has money (reminding her to do it, and doing it for her), making sure she gets distracted by going out once in a while, just going with the flow sometimes.... Whether that means laugh or cry together....whatever. She found out today he was shipped from county jail to where ever he goes for quarantine before he gets sent to the state prison...thought that was not happening until friday....so now the visit scheduled for thursday is no longer possible. She got to talk to him last night around 9:30, so she was the last outside contact he'll have for about a month.....i've literally laid down with her and cried our eyes out. She's so sad.....going through divorce at the same time....nervous breakdown yesterday...she's stronger than she realizes and she will get through this!
Having a wonderful supportive friend means more than you can imagine, as what you can do for your friend, just be there. If you have a few extra bucks put some $$ on his account, fund your phone and take some calls, send cards, letters. Be a shoulder for your friend, take her to a movie, lunch, crafting, garage sales, shopping help her to move forward, and when she is down cry with her and please always remember to ask her how her son is doing
This journey is one we will not get over, our pain never really goes away, we just learn to place it in a place that not everyone can see. Your friend is indeed blessed to have you in her life, from a broken hearted Mom I say thank you and God Bless you
That's the thing she kept saying...she couldn't take the "not knowing".... but now she knows, and she's worse now than ever before. Worried about get son going away.... not knowing where he's going, what to expect, how to make sure he gets what he needs... and hope he stays out of trouble. All we know is he gets "shipped out" today or Friday. Breaks my heart to watch hers break, and not a thing I can say or do to make it better. Just be here for whatever (and I do mean WHATEVER. ...it's a tough roller coaster ride)
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Stacy, from the other post I read, you sound just like my dear wonderful friend who sat with me just after my son was sentence to life. She never said a word, not one, she just sat there rocking me back and forth for hours as I cried. Your friend is very blessed to have you . I hope she will find her way here to MISS, All of these ladies are so wonder and give so much support it would be good for her to know she is not alone.
Having a wonderful supportive friend means more than you can imagine, as what you can do for your friend, just be there. If you have a few extra bucks put some $$ on his account, fund your phone and take some calls, send cards, letters. Be a shoulder for your friend, take her to a movie, lunch, crafting, garage sales, shopping help her to move forward, and when she is down cry with her and please always remember to ask her how her son is doing
This journey is one we will not get over, our pain never really goes away, we just learn to place it in a place that not everyone can see. Your friend is indeed blessed to have you in her life, from a broken hearted Mom I say thank you and God Bless you
People always say there's nothing worse than not knowing. No - - not true. A long sentence you would rather not know about!