MOM OF INCARCERATED DISABLED SON

I am new to this web site, my son who has severe cognitive, learning and physical disabilities.  He is 38 but has the maturity of a 14-16 year old. He was sent to prison Dec 20, 13 forr six years with no early release.  Three judges refused to hear the case the DA finally found one that would.  A 14 year old girl accused him of assaulting her (touching). She wanted to move her 19 year old boyfriend in with my son and his roommate, who is her father and had visitation.  She has accused a variety of men of doing this to her even teachers but this was not allowed into court.  She is now a ward of the state as no one can handle her.  She used to jump on my sons lap and ask for a ride, so in the end when he was asked if he ever touched her, he said yes, he was afraid of a 40 year sentence.  The judge did not believe his own psychological profile and said he was a lyre and a whole lot of things.  He is incarcerated in Wisconsin if anyone has any experience.   

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  • Charlotte, I did think of FMLA but did not have much time as my husband had cancer treatment this last year, for now he is ok but just had big back surgery, so between my son and my husband there was no more I could take with a high pressure job that demanded acute accuracy, I could be fired for errors, so I thought it best to retire early and not give up what I had earned including a small pension which helps a little with social security.  Medication has helped but still have moments of overwhelming sadness, which now that I am not working I can handle a little better.  

    Now my son is calling more as all his so-called friends have all fallen off.  

    Also this case was about money, it was suggested that we pay $100,00. it would go away, at least judge dismissed that as not legal but did nothing to the parties ex-step mother that wanted the money.  

    Just a nightmare.  

    Marcia 

  • I am so sorry for you and your son.  I will keep you in my prayers.  This site will be a wonderful support to you as no-one but someone going through this terror can fully understand it.  I immediately called for counseling and feel that it has helped.  I started writing down my feelings every night and find that this really helped put my fragmented thoughts and feelings into perspective.  Time doesn't really 'heal' but it does make each day a little more bearable.  Please know that you are not alone.  Blessings to you and your Son.

  • Thanks for your support. I too have tried counseling and still am but they have no idea the impact this has on families. All I get is keep in mind that he has a roof over his head and he is being fed. I have had to leave a job that I have had for 20 years as I could no longer function. I left before I was fired. There is not a day or moment that goes by that this does not effect your life.
  • So messed up..so much for our wonderful justice system once again...prayers and hugs to you and your son..so sorry you are dealing with this.

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