Max is gone. They took him from county on Monday. We havent heard from him since sunday. It is tearing us apart! I check MDOC every hour to see if they have uploaded any information and his picture, so I can see that he is ok. Ive put money in his account so he can call when he gets too. I put extra money so that if he can get snacks, he has the money to do it. And now we just wait... and wait... My daughter is a Junior in highschool. Has never gotten a B in her life. Got her first B. She is devasted. She misses her brother so much. Her other 3 brothers are not around (college, lives out of state) so it's just her and us. And we are falling apart ourselves, right in front of her. I wish I was stronger so that I could make all her fears go away, but Im not. And Im not sure when I will be... Our entire family is one big emotional mess. I pray everynight that this will be easier when I wake up and I will make it through at least work without breaking down. Not even close yet... :(
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When my son was moved from county he went to an intake prison and the rules are 30 days he cannot receive calls. After 30 days he is moved to a home prison and was allowed to call . He was there 6 monthscsnd tgen transfer to another ( better newer) and this is where is he now. I have cried many tears however, I prayed long before he was in trouble and arrested as he was on drugs and I feared for his life . I told my husband “I know I’m going to get a call from the morgen to identify him “ so I took to pray as I didn’t even know where he was in the city. So I feel God took mercy on me and he is now safe or safer than he was on the streets and he has shelter and 3 meals . It’s been 14 months and we have a long way to go go trust that this is God’s plan. When he gets where he will be place apply for a visitor along with your daughter and husband . When you see him it’s in a big waiting room like a doctors office you can hug and kiss him upon arriving and leaving . There are vending machine so you can put money on a prison card when you get there and buy him snacks from the machine . They love that. Look on the positive as maybe God is working in him. His best chance of success and not returning is having support of family . So write letters, accept calls but dont let him drain you financially as some will try .we put my son on a budget . I put so much on his account and phone every 1st of the month and if he runs out then he must wait. The phone I put money in the first and the 15 as he will run out by calling too much because he’s lonely. I encourage him to join a church group and take any self help classes as this helps on his tecird for parole . Good luck . I’m here for you anytime . Friend me
prayers to you Mom
lori
Hang in there. If you need to talk, please msg me friend request. As I shared in our journey just the other day. I remember the day he was moved. We were sitting in a hospital waiting room, waiting for my mother in law to pass. Here in Pa Michael had to go through 2 other DOC prisons, before being assigned to his “home” prison. And the first one he went to w3 knew was going to be his worse, because of the reputation it has. However, all I could do, is what you are doing making sure he could reach out, when necessary. I did call the Prison that night and got a nice man, who informed me he had arrived, and that there would be a blackout period for a time, for them to get acclimated. He also told me they would provide him with envelopes and paper to get him started. I know all prisons are different. When you do get to talk to him, make sure he has signed for you to be able to get information. Set up regular call days and times, not that he can’t call other times, but we found this helpful. I also had a couple close friends of mine and my mom, on his phone list so he could talk to a different person. I had people writing to him, constantly. I do not know what your sons status is, with his addiction, or what time he is facing. My son actually continued to use while in County and then, the day he was moved tonState Prison, became his clean date. I will not overload you anymore, but would love to help you navigate what you’re feeling if you want. I will send you a request. And we covered Michael in Prayer daily, as did our church, and the moms on here. And by Gods Grace we survived. Hang in there. Praying for you and your daughter
It may be several weeks before u here from him. You have done everything you can. Keep looking where he is and write letters when you know. You will hear from him. Hugs and peace to u all