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  • SAD MOM January 19, 2014 at 10:10am

    Dos any one know any thing about sandstone prison in Minnesota.....

  • SAD MOM January 19, 2014 at 10:09am
    I am sure you are happy and sad all at the same time i hope it all works out for him when he gets out...I wish i knew of a place to help you I know we have some in are ares for inmates can go when they are released...check with your local churches they may be able to direct you to a place for help
  • Judy McInerney January 17, 2014 at 5:42pm

    Having a down day worrying about where my son will go when he gets out in 2 weeks. I have called different people today with nothing but dead end answers.  He can not stay here because my husband is afraid of him and thinks things could get out of hand.  I am 65 and wish this wasn't happening at this time in my life but this is God's will and I have to be strong cause it could be worse. I don't want to worry about him every minute I am not around. He is an adult and should take the responsibility to act like one. I can't eat and am so depressed I don't know what to do to give me hope.

  • SAD MOM January 15, 2014 at 6:51pm

    Thank you all for the wonderful comments...i read them all and I understand what you all say but this is all so unbelievable to me are son  is 29 and has never given us one bit of trouble in all those years not even a speeding ticket never had any brush with the law we were so blind sided by all of this . are son has been in for one year now with 12 to go and i am trying so to understand, I blame myself every day and ask my self what did I not see and what could I have done and what did I do wrong as a parent ...and my biggest question I ask every day is WHY did this happen to him and us.we are trying to keep on with are lives but it is so hard to do any thing and not feel guilty...to have a fun time knowing are son can not I know he is an adult and he made the choices that he did and he to knows that he is where he is to be he takes full responsibly for what he did ...but it is so hard...........

  • Judy McInerney January 7, 2014 at 10:25pm

    I guess the hard part for me is his mental problems and how this has affected them. He says he has night mares and only sleeps a few hours. I wish the judge could have seen the addict in him. He still has to go to treatment but has dried out in prison too. I hope this will be the straw that broke the camels back now that he has seen what are the consequences from this life of drugs. I only wish I could have helped him before all this happened but he didn't want to listen to us. That is part of the personality of addiction. They want to blame us but all I did  was enable him. I want the best for him but he has to do it himself. You are all right that we need the communication to keep coming from one another. There is always someone out there that can use a shoulder to lean on.  I pray the New Year will bring some peace to all of our lives and those incarcerated.

  • Judy McInerney January 7, 2014 at 9:40pm
    It is hard. My son says the same thing, he is an adult but he made bad choices and now he has to pay the consequences. He should get out for his first charge but then faces another one for a DUI. Again he says it wasn't fault. It seems like once you are in the system, it is hard to get a new start. I am terribly worried of what it will be like when he comes back. He has nothing. His ex girlfriend stole our truck that he used and has his personal belongings and will not let us have them. We can't get a restraint order on her in Iowa cause she lives in Minn. and they say we have to prove the text messages and threats over the last 9 months. I am sure you are worried to about what the future hold. It is good to pray and stay busy as much as you can.
    Lt
  • Rhonda - Administrator January 7, 2014 at 2:23pm

    My only advice would be to take one day at a time.... The pain doesn't go away completely, but with time, you'll be able to handle it better. You are not alone on this journey, we are here for you. If you need to talk...just send out a message to any of the members, we do understand.

    (Hugs)

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