Both young men pictured here are my sons and my daughter. Not one but both sons are in jail being held 23 hours a day in a cell with 1 hour of recreational time, that's what the jail call it, recreational time, out of the cell. They have been there a couple weeks shy of a year, Their bond has been denied 3 times and they still have not gone to court. So much is not being said. I cannot afford an attorney for one less more both of them. So much I could say.
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Sorry so much just haven't been able to talk to anyone, no one wants to hear it. Not even the PD office.
But thankfully my sister of all people almost had a head on collision with him coming around a curve, street wet, lost control, tried to overcompensate, going way too fast in a little toyota scion, a big kid 6ft1 320lbs, recognizing possibly, considering she lived out of town. Came home for memorial day, what a day to remember. Immediately called 911 not sure if it were her nephew, still callled, 911 on the scene intubated him, stabilized his leg, horrific pictures captured by onlookers, and airlifted him to the nearest medical university which was 50 miles away, nevertheless, he made it. Now this, public defenders knows, have medical records, that my son is not capable of standing trial. We had just signed up with department of traumatic brain injury who sent us to voc rehab. Intake worker new his symptoms from day one. I was shocked to see his reaction. He cried, he said he feels trapped and no one understands what he's going thru. He can't understand why he makes these weird frightening to me noises, similar to when he first woke up from the coma, why he can't remember where he put his wallet. why he cant understand that it's wrong to take your moms ring off the dresser and sell it for chump change for marijuana, and only God knows what else. How did I let things come to this, I should've had him committed or anything. I tried, I took him to work at 10 oclock at night so he could work the night shift and he did well for awhile until I got hurt at work, became frustrated with treating him like a kid, not realizing until it was too late that he was and still is just a kid. He never had a man in his life to teach him how to be a man. Sure he saw me going to work everyday, but how to be a man ? no I couldn't do that. My dad helped as much as he could. He'd always tell me I'd have to keep the boys in church, being that he was a preacher and all. And I did just that I kept them in church. They were raised in church they know right from wrong. They saw me working and I told them what's worth having in life is worth working for. Really scared right now. I trust God and want to trust him completely, but they're talking life and 30 years. My kids have no criminal record. None! nor do they have a lawyer. The public defenders are overwhelmed with cases. OMG! I'm tired but I gotta keep going and help my kids.
My oldest son picture above, Dante' was in a car wreck back in 2009 that left him with a head injury called a subdural hematoma. He was in a coma for 9 days and woke up acting like a kid. The doctors didn't know how long it would last but thankfully after a couple weeks and after I got him home and weaned him off some of the medications, ie morphine, dilantin he slowly came back to himself, so I thought, until he started forgetting where he put things even after taking his brother to work he asked, where's Ramone. The other brother pictured here. I tried to get him help, he had speech therapy Occupational Therapy to help him walk again from a shattered femur that ended up being repaired with a metal rod. There went his football prospects. He was devastated when he learned this. From that point on he turned to drugs and alcohol. His thought processing was altered. Things that were serious to me was not to him, it's almost like he turned into a 10 year old but was 19. Looking at him, thank God, you can't tell anything happened to him. And I guess thankfully he doesn't remember anything. Like being thrown 50 feet out of the car where he landed in a ditch and stopped breathing, left for dead.
I think that they try to keep them in jail as long as they can so the will take a deal and dont have to go to court.
Sarah, they've been in county jail for a solid year. Like they're trying to break down their mentality.
It's crazy, I'm trying to hold it together for the others kids but their dad calls and sound so happy go lucky. Of course he cares and I know he's in pain too. But we lost each other a long time ago. First time he went in I was 18, 4 years second time 8 years I was 22, third time 8 more years I gave up I had to raise these kids couldn't do it anymore. Now their dad is in for 15 years in 2007. Imagine how much pain they feel growing up without a dad. and a mom that s a nurse.
What good looking kids. Im so sorry. Thats hard but on the up side with them stil in there they will move there casses faster then if they were out. You have to know that God is working in all are lives.